8 Things I Would Tell My 20-Year-Old Self
It’s not been long that I exited my twenties and celebrated the beginning of a new decade. If you want to find out how I like being 30 , check my 8 reasons why turning 30 is going to be great. Nonetheless, I did enjoy my twenties. I got to go to college, I spent some time abroad – in France and the UK – discovered some of my favorite places in the world and made friendships that I hope will last my entire life.
However despite all the fun that I had, sometimes, the twenties were a bit rocky. I have learned a lot in the course of time. So, if I could go back in time and do it all over again, I would probably do a few things differently. I have assembled those things in a list of 8 pieces of advice (I like making lists) that I would give my 20-year-old self. So here we go:
8 Things I Would Tell My 20-Year-Old-Self
#1 You will find your way
Don’t feel lost. It doesn’t matter that others know what they want to study and where they want to be in 10 years time. What matters is you, even if you don’t have a clue. You will catch up. Just relax. It’s okay to not have a plan. Things will work out fine. One day at a time.
#2 Don’t overthink things
You won’t be able to change anything by overthinking it. Some things are just beyond your control. Be this at 3 am in the morning or when you are trying to have a nice time with friends or family. Which leads us to #3.
#3 Make the most of every single moment
Your twenties will fly by in no time. Seemingly in a split-second they will be over. Make the most of every single moment. Live it. Feel it. Be it. Enjoy the time at college. The time with friends. The time abroad. Don’t spend it worrying so much about the future. Instead, relax and have fun. Those are the moments that count. The more happiness you live, the happier and more fulfilled you will become.
#4 You are enough
Kiss your self-doubt good-bye. And listen to your grandma instead. You have been doing great so far, and you will be able to do great in the future. Don’t hesitate. Believe in the things you have accomplished and trust yourself. You can do this.
This one goes with #3. Travel and make the most of the time you have. Don’t overstress about your papers, they can be written in four weeks instead of six. Enjoy the freedom and flexibility that college gives you.
#6 Take the occasional leap of faith
You are young. Take some risks. Sensible ones – of course. 😉 It doesn’t matter if some things won’t work out the way you planned. But you will have the certainty that you have tried. Explore your options. Overcome your boundaries.
#7 Make more time for your friends
People will come. And people will go. Not all your friends will stick around, but you will learn to understand who the good ones are. Make sure you make time for them, because they are more important in life than an additional hour in the library (you already know your stuff anyways!).
#8 Be your best friend
You are doing great, you have come this far already, you are your own person. Don’t question yourself so much. Instead, be your best friend. Spoil yourself. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself. You deserve it. Every damn single minute.