Happy Endings Are What We Make Of It
We live in a fast-paced world. We are connected 24/7, we buy our food online, have transferred socializing to the online world and don’t question digital money transfer. We date online, we meet friends online, we have job interviews online. But when it comes to relationships, the truth is, humans struggle because of their own advancements. We strive for perfection. For the ideal. For the magical “it” of which movies, books and ads set the example. We want it all. The happy ending. In love. In friendship. And in our professional relationships. What we seem to have forgotten in all this striving for our wonderland is that setbacks belong to life just as much as success and happiness. They make the value of the latter. They belong together. Just like apple pie and whipped cream, mosquitos and summer nights or popcorn and movies.
Where is the rewind button?
I have got so used to all the technological knick knack in my life, the fact that everything can be perfected, that we can go back and redo things, that I sometimes actually end up looking for a rewind button. Let it be an embarrassing situation, a totally gone wrong text, or a fight, I catch myself reaching for this handy leftward pointing arrow, the rewind button, just to start laughing at myself, in utmost disbelief at my own naivety. Because, in life, there is no such thing. Things are real. We might be lucky to get a second chance, but that is not always up to us. What is up to us is the way we cope with setbacks. Because there is no rewind. No going back. And sometimes, there is no happy ending. At least not the one we were striving for. The happy ending is what we make of it. How we turn life around. How we tackle what life throws at us.
You can’t beat homemade
There is a well-known saying: “If life gives you lemons, make lemonade“. It might be a bit worn out, but its meaning remains true. What most of us today have forgotten is how to actually make lemonade. Because we have grown up with the knowledge that all we have to do is go to the store and buy a chilled bottle of that sweet carbonated drink that tastes of lemons, and especially good when the sun is out and summer is at its best. We have forgotten to think about how things are done, and, instead, have started to take them for granted. But what if we went to the store tomorrow and they told us they were out? What we could do instead is buy lemons and go back to making our own, just as we have to shape our own happy endings. Because those can’t be found in a store.
That’s my two cents.